أَخٌ تَسْتَفِيدُهُ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَخٍ تَسْتَزِيدُهُ
The brother whom you benefit from is better than the brother [for] whom you increase [benefit]
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لَا تَصْحَبْ إِلَّا عَاقِلًا تَقِيّاً وَلَا تُعَاشِرْ إِلَّا عَالِماً زَكِيّاً وَلَا تُودِعْ سِرَّكَ إِلَّا مُؤْمِناً وَفِيّاً
Do not accompany anyone but the intelligent and pious; and do not associate with anyone but the knowledgeable and righteous; and do not mention your secret to anyone but the trustworthy and loyal
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم
إِيَّاكَ وَالْجَفَاءَ فَإِنَّهُ يُفْسِدُ الْإِخَاءَ وَيُمَقِّتُ إِلَى اللَّهِ وَالنَّاسِ
Beware of antipathy, for it corrupts brotherhood and makes one despised by Allah and the people
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إِيَّاكَ أَنْ تُخْرِجَ [تُحْرِجَ] صَدِيقَكَ إِخْرَاجاً [إِحْرَاجاً] يُخْرِجُهُ عَنْ مَوَدَّتِكَ وَاسْتَبْقِ لَهُ مِنْ أُنْسِكَ مَوْضِعاً يَثِقُ بِالرُّجُوعِ إِلَيْهِ
Be careful not to drive away your friend in a way that removes all the affection he has for you, and leave some room from your friendship for him so that he may rely on returning back to it
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم
إِنْ أَرَدْتَ قَطِيعَةَ أَخِيكَ فَاسْتَبْقِ لَهُ مِنْ نَفْسِكَ بَقِيَّةً يَرْجِعُ إِلَيْهَا إِنْ بَدَا لَهُ ذَلِكَ يَوْماً مَا
If you want to cut off ties with your brother [in faith] then leave some of your friendship for him, so that he may return to it someday if he so wishes
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إِنِ اسْتَنَمْتَ إِلَى وَدُودِكَ فَأَحْرِزْ لَهُ مِنْ [معه] أَمْرِكَ وَاسْتَبْقِ لَهُ مِنْ سِرِّكَ مَا لَعَلَّكَ أَنْ تَنْدِمَ عَلَيْهِ وَقْتاً مَا
[Even] if you have gained confidence and trust in your close friend, safeguard some of your affairs and conceal some of your secrets [from him], for it is possible that you may regret [revealing them] at some time [in the future]
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إِذَا أَحْبَبْتَ فَلَا تُكْثِرْ
When you love [something or someone] then do not be excessive [in your love]
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم
تَجَنَّبُوا تَضَاغُنَ الْقُلُوبِ وَتَشَاحُنَ الصُّدُورِ وَتَدَابُرَ النُّفُوسِ وَتَخَاذُلَ الْأَيْدِي تَمْلِكُوا أَمْرَكُمْ
Keep away from harbouring grudges against each other, hating each other, quarrelling with one other and not lending a supporting hand to each other, [and by doing this] you will gain mastery over your affairs
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم
تَنَاسَ مَسَاوِيَ الْإِخْوَانِ تَسْتَدِمْ وُدَّهُمْ
Pretend to have forgotten the bad actions of your brothers and their affection [towards you] will last longer
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم
حُسْنُ الْإِخَاءِ يُجْزِلُ الْأَجْرَ وَيُجْمِلُ الثَّنَاءَ
The embellishment of brotherhood is good companionship and [giving] support despite [financial] difficulty
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رُبَّ صَدِيقٍ يُؤْتَى مِنْ جَهْلِهِ لَا مِنْ نِيَّتِهِ
Many a friend is scorned because of his ignorance, not because of his intention
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رُبَّ أَخٍ لَمْ تَلِدْهُ أُمُّكَ
Many a brother has not been born to your mother
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كُنْ بِعَدُوِّكَ الْعَاقِلِ أَوْثَقَ مِنْكَ بِصَدِيقِكَ الْجَاهِلِ
Take comfort for yourself in solitude rather than bad company
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم
كُلَّمَا طَالَتِ الصُّحْبَةُ تَأَكَّدَتِ الْحُرْمَةُ
Be more confident of your intelligent foe than your ignorant friend
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم
لَرُبَّمَا خَانَ النَّصِيحُ الْمُؤْتَمَنُ وَنَصَحَ الْمُسْتَخَانُ
Sometimes the reliable advisor may betray [you] and the one who is [deemed] disloyal may give good advice
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لَيْسَ مَعَ الْخِلَافِ ائْتِلَافٌ
With disagreement there is no harmony
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مَنِ اسْتَفْسَدَ صَدِيقَهُ نَقَصَ مِنْ عَدَدِهِ
One who spoils [his relationship with] his friend has reduced his own number
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مَنِ اسْتَخَفَّ بِمَوَالِيهِ اسْتَثْقَلَ وَطْأَةَ مُعَادِيهِ
One who demands too much from his friend will sever his friendship
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم
مَنْ لَمْ يَرْضَ مِنْ صَدِيقِهِ إِلَّا بِإِيثَارِهِ عَلَى نَفْسِهِ دَامَ سَخَطُهُ
One who is courteous to his companion will gain his acceptance, and one who is harsh to him will drive him away and get separated from him
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مَا سَعِدَ مَنْ شَقِيَ إِخْوَانُهُ
He who makes his brothers miserable does not gain felicity
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لَا تَسْتَحْسِنْ مِنْ نَفْسِكَ مَا مِنْ غَيْرِكَ تَسْتَنْكِرُهُ
Do not sanction for yourself that [action] which you would disapprove of from others
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لَا تُوحِشَنَّ [لَا تُوحِشِ] امْرَأً يَسُوؤُكَ فِرَاقُهُ
Do not alienate a person whose separation will harm you
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم
لَا تَتَمَسَّكَنَّ بِمُدْبِرٍ وَلَا تُفَارِقَنَّ مُقْبِلًا
Never hold on to one who turns back and do not separate from the one who moves forward
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لَا تَبْذُلَنَّ وُدَّكَ إِذَا لَمْ تَجِدْ مَوْضِعاً
Never extend your friendship when you do not find a [suitable] place for it
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم
لَا تَتَّخِذَنَّ عَدُوَّ صَدِيقِكَ صَدِيقاً فَتُعَادِيَ صَدِيقَكَ
Associating with the ignorant stems from lack of intelligence
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم
لَا تُنَابِذْ عَدُوَّكَ وَلَا تُقَرِّعْ صَدِيقَكَ وَاقْبَلِ الْعُذْرَ وَإِنْ كَانَ كَذِباً وَدَعِ الْجَوَابَ عَنْ قُدْرَةٍ وَإِنْ كَانَ لَكَ
Do not declare your enmity to your enemy and do not rebuke your friend; and accept the excuse [you are given] even if it is a lie, and do not give [a forceful] response despite having the power to do so, even if it be your right
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم
لَا تَسْتَكْثِرَنَّ مِنْ إِخْوَانِ الدُّنْيَا فَإِنَّكَ إِنْ عَجَزْتَ عَنْهُمْ تَحَوَّلُوا أَعْدَاءً وَإِنَّ مَثَلَهُمْ كَمَثَلِ النَّارِ كَثِيرُهَا يُحْرِقُ وَقَلِيلُهَا يَنْفَعُ
Do not frequent the company of a wicked person, for if you are bestowed with a blessing, he will envy you and if a misfortune befalls you, he will abandon you
المصدر : غرر الحكم ودرر الكلم